tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3116036933808177024.post9215378675528393482..comments2024-03-26T17:20:11.640+08:00Comments on sketches from the other side: broodingarchitarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13124702208354709765noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3116036933808177024.post-27574135194990419542012-09-18T12:01:41.781+08:002012-09-18T12:01:41.781+08:00it's really really tricky. I know people who ...it's really really tricky. I know people who will be in debt for the rest of their lives due to IVF, and I also know that there are often sound biological reasons why 2 people just don't manage to conceive together ... It's like we really really don't want to be denied anything in life anymore. We can't accept anything but have to fight everything.<br />When we (finally after 7 years) decided to try for a child we agreed if it didn't happen we weren't going to try any other options.<br />When I lost my first baby, I suddenly realised how much I wanted it. Luckily I then had 2 healthy babies after that, so it never came to being tested if I could really let go.<br />I think letting go is a very important thing to learn in life though. I've been thinking about what is different in our family now, and I think the biggest thing is me letting go of what I thought my children could / should be, and letting them be who they are.<br />Conception is the only first step. I see so many of those "wanted" children then really spoilt terribly as they are denied nothing later ...Gweipohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09377349664812948121noreply@blogger.com